Have you ever been afraid that if you gave up on the only guy you love, that he wont fight to win you back?

I know I'm supposed to have the attitude of Sc3w him if he cant see my self worth.. And that I deserve better and all that blah blah blah.. But I dont think like other people. I dont go looking for love and when we found each other I realized that in my over 30 yrs of life, and all the guys that have wanted me in theirs or whom I have thought I loved.. that it wasn't until I met this one, that all the others weren't love at all! Not even my marriage of 9 years could compare to the complete unconditional love I have for this man. But his fears of commitment, his soul ties to others because of those fears, etc all makes me feel beaten down. Despite all we have shared together, over 5 years. the love, intimacy, kisses, snuggles, road trips, laughter, me beating him at wrestling. :P Ok.. maybe he beat me but I cant admit that. :P lol.. Just all of it.. When we made love it was never just or effing like most guys compartmentalize it as.... I don't want to lose him ever..... but 5 yrs is a long time to wait for a guy to open his eyes and see how great we are together and how awesome we could be in an honest commitment to each other. I feel worn out on every level and I'm seeing our time we are spending together now as not quality filled anymore. How can I get him to WANT to be with me. To see me as every other guy has. Someone who is a diamond and not a stone? Someone whose cool and drama free? Someone hes EMOTIONALLY connected to as he was soooo deeply not too long ago? Should I risk losing him forever and the ONLY true joy I ever had in my heart from a guy or should I hang in there and continue to go out with him when he wants to. And step by step try to make things better? Have you ever felt like if you walked away that he wouldn't care enough to chase you and realize how much he loves you? What would you do if you were me?